Grey Speaks // Love, Simon – Why Representation is God Damn Fucking Important

love, simon.jpgRaise your hand if you’ve been privileged enough to see Love, Simon yet???🙋🏻

GUYSSSSSS I loved it so much!!!

I dragged my mum to an advanced screening. I wouldn’t stop talking about it for months, and then it only got worse the week leading up to going and seeing it.

Everyone take this moment to pray for my mother. 

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I laughed, I cried, I held onto my pee far longer than is healthy because I didn’t want to miss anything, it was a good time all around.

It was everything I wanted it to be;

☁️ Cute AF 😍

☁️ Gay AF 👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨

☁️ Hilarious AF 😂

☁️ Sweet AF ☺️

☁️ Emotional AF 😭

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And if you’re wondering, my mum loved it just as much as I did.
Though she probably could have done without my commentary and filling her in on trivia about the actors throughout the movie I watched way too many cast interviews before watching it I’m sorry Mum!

Safe to say, for me, it was perfect. 🙏🏻

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So, in honour of this momentous occasion of finally getting a mainstream rom-com of a gay love story with a happy ending* made by a major production company, I want to take a moment to talk about why a film like this is so God Damn Fucking Important.

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*Is that a spoiler? I feel like that shouldn’t be a spoiler? It’s definitely not one if you have read the books. 

Representation is a hella hot topic right now. And for great reason.

Representation is important because people have the right to feel seen by society and the media. It can shape how we see ourselves, but also how we see people who are different from us. But it also shows us that we aren’t alone, that maybe we’re normal, even!

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If you think that isn’t true or that it doesn’t matter then I want you to take a moment and think back to the first time you ever really connected with a character in a book or film, one who maybe looked like you, thought like you, loved like you. How absolutely brilliant was that feeling??? It felt a bit like magic, didn’t it?✨

Now think back to a time where you connected to a character who was different from you? Maybe they looked different, or thought differently about the world, or loved differently to you but you still connected to them anyway. It might have changed your way of thinking, made you empathize and try harder to understand what people like them went through. Again, something like that is a bit like magic.✨

Now imagine what it’s like to never see yourself in the books you read. Or that when you do, people like you are treated like absolute shit, or are killed off. Can you imagine if that was you’re only point of reference about people like you in media and art??? 💣How damaging that would be?💣

Things people deserve:

☁️ Characters like them ✅

☁️ Those characters to be multi-dimensional and given actual thought out character arcs ✅

☁️ For those characters to not always be the ones that die ✅

☁️ For those characters to get happy endings ✅

Things people don’t deserve:

☁️ No representation at all ❌

☁️ When they do get representation, the character is killed off ❌

☁️ Or given no character arc ❌

☁️ Or used as a plot device for other characters to learn from ❌

☁️ The tragic ending that any non-straight-cis-white-male character apparently deserves according to representation thus far ❌

Did I leave anything out???

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When you can’t see yourself in books and film, it’s very easy to question if there is something wrong with you.

When the only representation of you that you can find shows people like you being killed off or being used as plot devices to further another character’s development it can be super fucking damaging to your sense of self and worth.

No one deserves to feel like that just because people can’t be bothered to make their books an accurate representation of the world we live in. 😒

Am I sounding like a broken record yet? Yes? Good. Maybe if I repeat myself enough it’ll actually sink in for some people.

Before now, no major motion picture production company has managed to make a coming out story about a gay kid who finds love and gasp gets to keep it. 🤭

If you ask me that’s pretty fucking sad. It’s beyond shitty that we are only just getting that now. 

But I’m so glad that we are in fact getting it! Hopefully, this movie paves the way for future movies, hell maybe we’ll finally get a sapphic love story where the protagonist gets her own happy ending??? 🤞🏻

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I don’t know if I have done this topic justice. Probably not.

But I wanted to try and touch on something that is near and dear to my heart. As a queer woman with mental illnesses and a chronic illness, it can be super fucking hard to find myself represented well in any work of fiction.

There are so many differences even within a community that even with Love, Simon, although it might be a great representation for some, it won’t entirely fit for others.

But this is hopefully a stepping stone, a very important one. Because fingers crossed, after it’s worldwide release, companies will finally realize they are missing out on huge demographics and could be making even more money by catering to those demographics. Which means they will then make more movies that represent people who have missed out on the magic feeling of connecting with a character like themselves. 🙏🏻

Anyway, go see the film, please!!! We need to show those with the power that we want more stories like this one! We want to show them that we are voices that deserve to be heard and the best way to do that, sadly, is to show that by making them, they stand to make even more money. 💸

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Goodbye, and thank you for listening to my rant and my begging for you to watch this film.

Cloud & Lightning Separation

Also, yes, yes, I know. I changed my featured image design AGAIN. Look I am an indecisive perfectionist who needs to learn when to stop. Will I ever? No. Probably not.

Have you seen Love, Simon?
What do you think about representation?
Do you think Representation is or isn’t important?


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10 thoughts on “Grey Speaks // Love, Simon – Why Representation is God Damn Fucking Important

  1. I’ve seen the movie three times now, and each time I do, it’s the best feeling in the world! Love, Simon is so important and I love it so so much!! I agree with you on the fact that it is annoying that we are just now getting this movie, but I am still happy that it exists. And maybe we aren’t too far off from a sapphic romcom where us girls get the happy ending xD. I hear Miseducation of Cameron Post has been picked up by a major studio, and is supposedly going to be coming out in theaters at some point, so fingers crossed for that.
    Also, YES, representation is so important to see and it’s such a great feeling to be able to see yourself in books and feel like you may not be alone after all. Everyone deserves to feel that way, and I hope everyone gets to feel that way.
    Lovely post, Grey!

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    1. Ooohhhh fingers crossed!
      Yes, exactly it’s so important and anyone who says otherwise doesn’t know what they’re talking about 🤷🏼‍♀️
      Thank you!


  2. I ADORE this movie (and the book)! For many reasons, but mainly because of how normalising it is. I dragged my friends to see an advanced screening the other week, and then I dragged my parents to see it last night. My dad may or may not have shed a few tears 😀

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